Why all fathers should attend at least one parenting workshop in those early years.

The changing roles of parenting for men and women….

Parenting workshop

Parenting workshops

The importance of Fathers attending a parenting workshop can not be under estimated. Research suggests that men who attend some sort of parenting group either in the lead up to becoming a father or during the early years -receive massive amounts of benefits ranging from having a much clearer understanding of their role as a father – to discovering better the ways to connect deeply with their children.

 

Thinking about roles

Becoming a parent is a major transition period for men. Depending on the expectations of the man becoming a parent and his perception of himself in the father role, the transition into parenthood can range from anticipation to indifference, feelings of intense inadequacy, resentment and denial. Often it is women who are placed in the position of having to take on the greater responsibility of caring for the child. Role distinctions, role models, systemic culture and a variety of media forms reinforce the notion that women naturally take on the role of primary care giver and that they have some inherent ability to cope with the parenting process while on the other hand men are portrayed as clumsy, out of their depth, and unable to connect with the needs of the child perpetuating the notion that men can never quite cut it in a primary parenting role. The effects of this overarching culture include, firstly, an underlying message that men are incompetent in parenting resulting in men withdrawing or at least having a limited perception of their affect in their parenting role. Secondly, mothers are placed under enormous pressure to perform due to the assumption that ‘it should come naturally’ to them.

 

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Group discussion

 

Thankfully, these stereotypes are quickly starting to fade away as a new breed of young fathers are beginning to show up. Many children are now reaping the massive rewards of having a father with a very “hands on” approach to the arrival of their new born child. This in turn is taking the pressure of mothers and giving them the space and freedom to be better mums and partners. This more balanced style of parenting is allowing the raising of children to be a more loving and wonderful experience for all involved.

 

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“The quality of the time that fathers spend with children can be measured by the types of communication, activities and behaviours that occur during interaction between fathers and children. The quality of this interaction can be largely dependent on how fathers see their role. It is therefore important to encourage open discussion about parenting roles so as to broaden and develop further our own perspective on what it means to be an involved father.”

The Fatherhood support Project – 2014

 

The validation of fathers as uniquely significant in child development and the
encouragement for fathers to take a primary nurturing role in their child’s life effectively
reframes the father’s role from one of peripheral importance to one that is centrally important.
A child who has the availability of both parents who see themselves as important and unique
to the child will benefit from the secure attachment within those relationships.

 

                              An invitation to attend this breakthrough workshop

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This is an invitation to all Fathers and their partners to come and join myself – Darrell Brown Fatherhood author and speaker, along with Kirstin Bouse – inspirational Psychologist of 20 years’ experience and Best-Selling Author and Speaker on Motherhood for an intimate discussion on the changing roles of parenting and the an exploration of the biggest challenges facing parents today. We would love to se you there.

 Conscious Couples Passionately Parenting workshop – Nov 30th

Couples workshop Nov 30th 2017

Couples workshop Nov 30th 2017

WHEN: November 30, 2017 @ 7:00 pm – 9:30 pm

WHERE: The Sound Temple – 30kms east of Perth CBD in the Hills WA (details on booking)

COST:$200 per couple

CONTACT: The Sound Temple 0474 555 444

 

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Conscious Couples Passionately Parenting workshop – Nov 30th

COUPLES WORKSHOP with Clinical Psychologist Kirstin Bouse AND Fatherhood Author DARRELL BROWN

Couples workshop Nov 30th 2017

Couples workshop Nov 30th 2017

WHEN:
November 30, 2017 @ 7:00 pm – 9:30 pm
WHERE:
The Sound Temple
30kms east of Perth CBD in the Hills WA (details on booking)
COST:
$200 per couple
CONTACT:
 The Sound Temple
 0474 555 444

Cost: $200 contribution per couple

COUPLES WORKSHOP WITH KIRSTIN BOUSE AND DARRELL BROWN

International Best-Selling Author, Story Teller, Father, Pioneer and Speaker on Fatherhood, Darrell Brown is teaming up with Kirstin Bouse an inspirational Psychologist of 20 years’ experience and Best-Selling Author and Speaker on Motherhood.
This unique workshop will be an amazing opportunity to experience a deeper connection with your partner with other couples coming together in a safe space to explore the changing roles of what it means to be modern-day parents.
Kirstin and Darrell will talk about the real nuts and bolts of parenting and remind us about how we can embrace the experience of parenting as nothing short of AWESOME…even when we throw in the sleepless nights and other challenges that come with being a parent in today’s world.
This will be a small group of only 6 couples which will give you an opportunity to talk heart-to-heart with Darrell and Kirstin.

This intimate event is limited to 6 couples
This unique experience includes these topics which will be part of an in-depth and open discussion:

  • Better understanding the gender roles of parenting
  • Skills and strategies of parenting in the advancing world
  • How to build strong, lasting relationships with each other and your precious children
  • Couples parenting on the same page with strong, unshakeable foundations
  • Couples finding lasting connection in amongst parenting
  • Children in a digital world

Enjoy this relaxed, entertaining and informative evening with two incredible professionals who will create a sacred place for couples to share a glimpse of their parenting experiences.
Kirstin says “motherhood creates an openness within women that fosters enormous growth…and I find that both a privilege and exciting, to be a part of”
Darrell says “now is the time for all fathers to spend quality time, be emotionally available and consciously connect as deeply as possible with their children”
What a great idea for a night out to come together with your partner and feel the power in this sharing evening! It will leave you Inspired, Confident and Connected – Ready to step into the next chapter of parenting your children hand in hand with your partner. There will be so much wisdom shared on this magical evening that you will love and remember for a lifetime. Such a gift to pass on to the next generation!

When

Start: 7:00pm Thursday 30th November 2017
Ends: 9:30pm

Included

There is unlimited organic tea and coffee available during the evening
AND as Two Special Gifts:
Everyone gets to take home a personally signed copy of both of their books:
Darrell’s book Raised by Our Childhood Voices
Kirstin’s book The Conscious Mother: A Simple Guide to Mothering with Self-Awareness, Authenticity, Confidence and Connectedness

An Inconvenient Truth and An Uncomfortable Conversation… for Men

Most men will talk...if its safe

“Manning Up’ has been killing men slowly for years…

 

An Uncomfortable Conversation… for Men

What do you say when someone asks if you would fly up to their underground mine site and give a presentation to about 150 Blokes on….“Men and their Emotions!”…?

Are you f….kn serious?

Actually they were….So over a period of 2 days I gave my “Manning Down” presentation 4 times to what many would call the toughest demographic audience in Australia.

Of course my talk is Counter Cultural.  As Al Gore suggested, its not about being popular, its about finding a truth.

As blokes we’ve been told our whole lives to “Man Up”…and it’s be killing us slowly ever since. As I told the men on site…it’s not so important where this talk starts, what’s important is where we finish…

Sure, it’s an uncomfortable conversation. But that’s not a good enough reason not to have it. After all, it’might be saving lives.

Fatherhood Wide Open – Kyle Bradford interviews Darrell Brown on being a Dad

Fatherhood Wide Open: Intelligent Conversation on Issues Of Fatherhood and Masculinity –

Fatherhood Wide Open with Kyle Bradford

Fatherhood Wide Open with Kyle Bradford

In August 2017 I had the great pleasure of being interviewed by one of Americas biggest pod-casters on Fatherhood – Kyle Bradford

Kyle and I spoke for almost an hour about my book, fatherhood and my ideas about raising boys in today’s world. We spoke about everything from how our childhood effects our adult lives, to what fathers can do to be their sons “best bet” in life. We looked at areas such as – screen time, pornography, risk taking, building tree houses and spirituality.

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You can listen to our interview hear at Fatherhood Wide Open.

enjoy!

Darrell Brown – Fatherhood Author and Speaker

Fatherhood – It still takes a village to raise a child

Fatherhood – It still takes a village to raise a child.

Talking to coaches and managers

Talking to football coaches and managers

Watch the short promo video here…

Many people believe that there has never been a more challenging time to raise children then now. Certainly this new frontier of the digital world has brought with a whole raft of new challenges. Unfortunately many parents feel isolated in their struggle to raise their children and are now looking in all directions for help and support. Well, perhaps help isn’t as far away as one might think.

As the president of a rather large local football club I realized the many benefits to parents and children that were hidden within the walls of a club that went well beyond just teaching our boys how to play sport.In fact a sporting club has within it all the ingredients that a young boy needs to not just survive, but THRIVE!

If done properly, then these are some of the many benefits:village 1

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Strong male role models
A battlefield for the young warrior
A place for controlled aggression
Support for single mothers
Rules and boundaries for our boys
Father and Son camp opportunities
Simply time for Dad to be in his sons life

Have a look at the promo video above of my talk and if you are interested I will send you the link to the full talk!

leave your thoughts or comments below

Darrell July 2017